
One of my peeves that gets my tail in a knot is the casual way in which people treat plant lives. This is particularly true around the holidays, when people give living plants as gifts to be enjoyed. What does that say about us, when we consider enjoyment to be the placing of living things in environments that are not suitable for their health or sustenance until they wither and die? We find joy in causing their death? Bad light conditions, decorative pots in which plants either drown or dehydrate, and inappropriate temperature and humidity spell the deaths of these plants. (Above, what I call a bowl of death).

That's not even going into what the plants went through to get to that point. I suppose you could consider some of them as being pampered, but that would be about the same as saying that the goose that gave fois gras was pampered before its death.
It's plant torture. One of the worst examples of this are the decorative gift "bonsai" trees. Even well-cared for bonsai are in a state of fragile bondage. Every moment of their lives are constrained and controlled in ways that are contrary to the plants natural habit. Roots are bound and pruned. Every drop of water is only what the owner allots to it. A missed day or two can mean the death of the plant. Branches are bound and forced into arrangement like the feet of women in China a century or so ago. Any attempt by the plant to grow out of bounds is immediately addressed in the severest measure. Limbs and trunks are stripped to create scars suggestive of age. It is about as much as someone can do to it without quite going over the line of death. These things done to a human would be extreme torture. (I suppose that you could say that life is about suffering whether plant or human)
Of course, most gift bonsai plants never live past the few weeks of the holiday (most being outdoor plants that can't tolerate indoor conditions), though well-cared for (huh, well-cared for!) plants can live for centuries (can you imagine enduring centuries of bondage, torture, and mutilation? We do find beauty in suffering, though, as some fantastic works of art occurred from the persecution of such individual. But it's a sad excuse to claim the pursuit of beauty in torturing someone). It has been said that I should start a BLF (Bonsai liberation front) movement, planting bonsai in the ground.

How can I find it beautiful when bulbs are placed in stones and forced into bloom until spent and then discarded? Even if planted outdoors, these bulbs forced into bloom out of season would die, or more typically would not survive in that climate anyway. Even if planted out in an appropriate climate, forced bulbs take a few years to recover. Plants that can be grown as houseplants are better, but how many people are able to successfully grow amaryllis from year to year?

I suppose you could say that any garden is an exercise in control. That's what we find beautiful in many gardens: the placing of plants, the shape, form, calculated bloom times. And who can say that plants in the wild have it any easier? They struggle against weather, competition, browsing animals. They frequently do not survive. But the differences are many-fold. Plants in nature are doing what they are meant to do most of the time. They are growing where they are adapted to grow, and growing in bare stones and water in a glass container is not where I see many plants that are given as holiday plants, growing naturally. The difference is also that we are not inflicting wild plants with their struggles, although we can appreciate them and the beauty they have achieved because of them. In the garden, we are at least attempting to provide plants with conditions necessary for their natural habit of growth rather than placing them in conditions that we know will only quickly lead to their death.
I think there is a line that is crossed in disposable holiday plants.
So what to do? Well I am guilty of giving amaryllis bulbs to my family this year. I gave them bulbs that were pre-planted in decorative pots. These pots are not ideal for growing them on in the future, but at least there is some soil for the roots. I also know that my family members know how to care for plants, and will give their amaryllis a bright windowsill, regular moistening, and even some nutrition (or suffer my wrath!). My family also lives in areas where amaryllis can be planted outdoors, and they were advised of this. They have all shown the ability to successfully care for potted plants.
The point is: give plants that aren't just going pretty for a week or two and then die or be disposed of. These are plants such as azaleas, poinsettias, cyclamen, unless you live in an area where they can be planted outdoors before they die (putting them outside where they freeze to death doesn't count). Avoid plants that really should be outdoor plants, but are forced to bloom for the holidays (like lavender). There is never enough light indoors for them to survive. Please don't give bonsai. If you must give a plant, give something like christmas cactus, which can be a houseplant that can live happily on a windowsill for years. The cybister amaryllis, or the "butterfly" amaryllis papilio are said to live happily as evergreen houseplants. Clivia would be a generous gift. Consider a beautiful houseplant. Keep in mind also, the recipient's desires. Do they even want a plant? If the plant is for yourself, can you care for the plant after the bloom is over?

Christmas cactus

Butterfly amaryllis

Cybister amaryllis

Clivia
You may find all this a bit extreme. But in all honesty, I do find it sad, the numbers of plants that will perish during the holidays.
(images off the web, primarily from White Flower Farm and Jackson & Perkins. This is not an endorsement or a condemnation. They just have pretty pictures)